In the words of Janet Jackson “CONTROL”








Now as an adult are you really in control of your life? The following blog is about women controlling their sexual desires. Janet Jackson made it clear that she was no longer a child and in control of her life. Meaning she could do whatever she liked. We too as adult women have that same choice to be in control of our lives, but are you really in “Control” when it comes to sex?

Birth control is a contraceptive used to allow us as women to have sex with a man with no worries of pregnancy. However, birth control is only that controlling birth and only about 95-99% of the time. So the other 5% its possible you can get pregnant! Birth control also has many side effects that we don’t often think about. The side effects of one of the most popular birth control, mirena are as follows:

Between 5% and 10% of Mirena users may experience:

  • Headache/Migraine
  • Acne
  • Depressed mood
  • Heavy or prolonged menstrual bleeding

Less than 5% of Mirena users may experience:

  • Vaginal discharge
  • Breast pain or tenderness
  • Nausea
  • Nervousness
  • Inflammation of cervix, vulva or vagina
  • Pelvic pain during your period
  • Back pain
  • Weight increase
  • Decreased sex drive
  • High blood pressure
  • Pain during intercourse
  • Anemia
  • Unusual hair growth or loss
  • Skin irritations (such as hives, rash, eczema or itching)
  • Feeling bloated
  • Swelling of hands and feet
  • Expulsion

Birth control does not protect against STI’s, STD’s, HIV or AIDs, which currently are our main concerns now among 18-30 year old men and women.

Self-control is something that takes time getting used to similar to birth control. However, the side effects are much better. For example, self-control keeps you from even going to an alone place with a young man that may lead to something more. Birth control will take you right to that place and give you no control of the outcome except, pregnancy. Self-control is the result of a discipline life. Being discipline is a display of self-control. Now self-control does take time and yes we can be more controlled in one area of our life than another. However, it should be an actively pursued goal to be self-controlled in areas of weakness. You may need an accountability partner, mentor or life coach to assist with getting pass being controlled to being in control.

So, how can I develop a self-controlled lifestyle? I’m glad you asked. In 2 Peter 1:5-8  5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.

Note: Knowledge comes before self-control and perseverance comes after it. The pursuit of self-control is not easy but definitely worth it.

So what control do you have birth or self?

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