I’ve recently watched the new music video by Olivia (see video below).
Everyone needs to hear this song because it relays the deep emotions within an unhealthy relationship. Physical and emotional abuse is often ignored or considered the cost of love. I don’t want to cliché but “love don’t cost a thing.” If a man loves you then he loves you for who you are and not whom he can make you. Sometimes us women take “red flags” as hick-ups instead of warning signs that the relationship is detrimental. This carelessness doesn’t only affect daughters but our nieces, grand babies, and us. When these young girls see you treated with disrespect either verbally or physically it puts a bad taste in their mouth toward men. These situations also make them believe that maybe that’s what love is and what love looks like. In turn this makes them angry to never want to “fall in love.”
This past summer I had the opportunity of being acquainted with a representative of the National Center for Victims of Crime. As I sat through her presentation with teen girls about abusive relationships I watched the faces of some mothers who were concern that they’re child would experience similar relationships. Some mother’s actually admitted there concern while others just agreed by nodding their head.
A good point that was mentioned during the discussion was females are not the only victims but women often abuse guys as well. However, those are less reported because they are supposed to be “man.” Whether male or female the disrespect of another individual is wrong.
The only way to bring a halt to these relationships is as a community we have to love enough to help each other. Be more observant some friends, family members, co-workers, and partners are not “just like that” but maybe abusive. Sexual and physically abuse is more obvious than verbal and emotional abuse. Checkout the link below to identify if you are in a healthy relationship:
Scripture: “Love…doesn’t force itself on others, isn’t always ‘me first.’ Doesn’t fly off the handle. Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others…” (1 Cor. 13:5, MSG)
Call to Action: 1. Make a step towards walking away from an unhealthy relationship by telling someone the truth… beginning with YOU. 2. Read the book below “Safe People” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend